After reading a syndicated columnist’s answers to homeschoolers’ questions on raising their children, I suggest parents ask trusted family or other mentors about household issues, before asking a complete stranger for advice.
John Rosemond’s advice columns have popped up a time or two when homeschooling parents asked him for help. From earlier this month:
Question: My 5-year-old son is an only child whom I home school. He talks back, argues and generally wears me down. I need help getting to him to realize that no is no, that I mean what I say. I know I’m the problem. Help!
Mr. Rosemond offers: “to repeat what I’ve said several times before in this column: I do not recommend homeschooling when the child in question is disobedient, disrespectful and generally difficult to “control.” Pre-existing discipline problems are counterproductive to an effective home school environment. Discipline problems should be solved before homeschooling is attempted.”
But he’s speaking of a five-year-old child.
As if being sent to school will straighten out these problems. Appears to be a strange sort of punishment and discipline to me.
Another question posted yesterday:
Question: I homeschool my two children, ages 7 and 9. The school day lasts from 8:30 in the morning until 2 in the afternoon, after which they usually do homework for an hour or two. During homework time, they are constantly coming to me, asking me to go over material we’ve covered during school.
This is preventing me from getting my own work done. I find myself being frequently interrupted, and I have to admit, I’ve lost it on a couple of occasions. What should I do?
Here’s his response on parenting:
You should tell your children that after 2 o’clock in the afternoon you are no longer their teacher – you’re their mother and you don’t intend to re-teach material you taught during school.
If home educating parents have learned nothing else as time goes by in their children’s growing process, they become wise to the notion they are their children’s first and most important teachers. 24 hours a day.
Despite John Rosemond’s invites to homeschool conventions, I contend he knows very little about the homeschool lifestyle. Maybe his parenting advice is fair enough dispensing to a big reading crowd about a personal and unique family situation. But generally, homeschoolers do not ring a bell at 8:30 am with recess at 10 and lunch at 11:45. We don’t have to do that. Not understanding the scheduling flexibilities, let alone telling a parent to shut off a piece of themselves ‘after-hours’ is impractical and not particularly helpful.
He needs to get out more in the homeschooling community to listen to families. If that is possible for an advice columnist.
Here’s a start. The advisors below see past the notion that home education and that family life could turn superfluous at any point. Family is the heart of a child’s life.