HEM’s Questions & Answers for the July-August, 2010 issue:
How Do I Handle a Child Who Won’t Work On Her Own?
My older daughter [now in college] was easy to homeschool because she was independent and liked to read on her own. This freed me up to pursue my own interests.
My youngest daughter is the complete opposite, and this is causing me a great deal of frustration. Emily wants to be amused minute-by-minute and does not work independently at all. If I suggest certain activities, she’ll say, “I don’t want to do that.” She won’t color or play with puzzles or do anything unless I do it with her. She won’t read unless she can read out loud to me. When I want to devote time to my own interests, she complains that she’s bored and that I’m not spending time with her. I find myself having to spend four or five hours doing things with her, which I feel she should be doing on her own, and this has pretty much left me with no time of my own to pursue my own dreams. By the end of the day I’m spent and unhappy. My daughter is too dependent on me. We have many things available to her in our home, but she won’t do anything unless I sit down and do them with her, and this is really draining me. How would you handle this? Lorraine
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