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September-October 2001 - Articles and Columns

NO PARROTS HERE

Homeschooling would be easier if my children wanted to learn about the same things that I happen to love.  Long ago I had the na•ve assumption that they would naturally develop my passion for environmentalism, muckraking journalism, anthropology, applied ethics, messy art, alternative medicine and satire.  I knew these passions weren't genetic, my parents were into playing bridge and visiting historical sites.  But I figured my children would absorb my fascination by osmosis.  Nope. More like reverse osmosis. They seem to feel that just living with me is exposure enough to those topics.  More than enough.

I play tapes of protest songs and world music despite their feigned death throes.  I take them, alright, drag them, to tiny art galleries, odd ethnic restaurants, wildlife sanctuaries and community service projects. They point out that they've never been to a video arcade and on that basis alone could be considered culturally deprived.  I occasionally read periodicals aloud hoping to discuss important issues with them, which has caused them to say,  "She's ranting again."  My grandiose art schemes, such as building a catapult to fling paint onto huge canvases, are met with rolled eyeballs.  I only need to look serious a brief moment before my daughter alerts her siblings, with warnings like, "Oh no, mom's launching into another sermon.  I think she's on number 127, the Deeper Meaning of Things."  I concoct homemade tinctures of herbal remedies, which admittedly aren't taste treats, but aren't cause enough for them to call the kitchen Mom's Evil Laboratory.  You get the idea.  

They are certainly their own people.  They are almost instinctively drawn to what I'm not.  I can almost hear the screech as my brain cells are continually forced to expand to include their interests.  

Several of them actually like organized activities like scouts and 4-H.  This requires meetings where I have to sit in a folding chair and behave myself.  I prefer spontaneous, free form events, like "Hey, lets paint a mural on that wall."

I hide it well, but secretly I'm squeamish.  Naturally they bring me snakes, toads, beetles, spiders, and even slugs.  They expect me to fawn over them.  I can only do a passable faux fawn.  

I like safety precautions like helmets, seat belts and peace accords.  My 10-year-old son adores skateboards, stunt biking and tree climbing.  He plans to be a pilot. He talks to me about airfoils and ailerons.  I'd only fly if I were being awarded the Nobel Prize. Even then I'd probably ask if it could be delivered.  

I'm a vegetarian.  Naturally, my daughter is smitten with dissecting.  She wants to be a forensic pathologist.  Supportively, I've purchased poor innocent creatures floating in formaldehyde, procured eyeballs and hearts from the butcher shop, even taken pictures of the gore she calls anatomy.  She proudly showed her grandmother the virtual autopsy web site.  My mother was intrigued.  I restrained myself from asking, "What happened to playing bridge?"  

I have trouble with technical details.  I even require assistance getting film in and out of the camera.  I finally recognized this as an immutable fact after indulging myself in a few temper tantrums over broken film. Of course my oldest is a ham radio operator, builds authentic model railroad layouts, fashions necessary parts for our 1949 tractor out of steel and stuns his boss into silence with his ability to fix highly exacting equipment. When he was six he patiently explained to me how to program the clock in our car.  I forgot what he said AS he was saying it.  

I've been known to slip into situational ethics from my pillar of universal truths at times, but I'm always caught by my youngest.  "Why do you talk about cherishing all life if you want to get rid of the wasp nest in the attic?" he'll say sweetly with seven-year-old logic.  "Why do you let the answering machine get the phone if you are home?  Isn't that like lying?" Okay, maybe they are learning what I have to say, but I wish they wouldn't use it against me.

Occasionally I'll get their grudging admiration for silly feats, like my useless mental compendium of song lyrics from the 70's or my willingness to sass authority figures.  But more and more often we find that our interests intersect.  I can't help but be awed by the uniqueness of what they find fascinating, and they can't help but understand what I thrive on.  Best of all, we laugh together.  

Homeschooling would be easier if they parroted my interests, but that would be indoctrination instead of exploration.  I'm glad they are their own people.  We all lean towards what helps us grow, like eager plants inclining towards sunlight even if it shines from different windows.

September-October 2001 - Articles and Columns

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